Don't attempt to choreograph the dancing child in you
In foreign places I become a mere observer of life, a smile suspended in between the heavens of my imagination and the flat earth of the toiling people. I look out of the window, squint my dry eyes and gaze in the wild distance. The people on the marketplace this morning, I was not part ...
Thank you for the kind birthday wishes!
To all who wished me a happy birthday on our beloved social media, and in particular to those well wishers I couldn't reply personally: Thank you very much for all your kind words, they inspire me to celebrate my 38th birthday with 365 days of inspiration. I am determined to keep up my writing in ...
During the last days of a year that was filled with the perceived horrors of the untimely death of several celebrity actors and popstars, as well as the real horror of the destruction of Aleppo, I want to sit back and reflect. A word that illustrates our quick march towards unadulterated cynicism that characterized the ...
Since it has become part of my daily life I would like to describe once again my thoughts about coping with bullshit labor.
Perform your bullshit jobs on music and a 30 minutes task becomes just too short for a Mozart sonata
Authoritarian upbringing: If you misbehave, you don't get any food. Modern parenting: If you misbehave, your food won't taste good.
p2p housing experiment
We are a Dutch-Korean family; our daughter was born in 2013. We work as independent writers and we get by. We are not dependent on any specific location for our work, so when we choose where we want to live we ask ourselves “do we fit in?” or “do people like us here because of ...
Dear Miru, There lives an intuition in me that wants you to be fearless. I know that fear has a vital function, but it only works when you experience it against the background of fearlessness. When your mind is troubled by unprocessed phobias, the fear that might have saved you will become useless and irrational. ...
Dear Miru, Today, I want to tell you about Education. Even if we would want them to, our children don't accept the concept of schooling as the transfer of a canon of established facts. They are so much used to Wikipedia and Google that it would be practically impossible to convince them that carrying knowledge ...
When people ask me "when are you publishing"? It sounds to me like "when are you coming out?" Well, with everything I do I am coming out. I am always coming out.
James Fenton. God is dead and atheists want to keep him dead. The idea of friendship is perhaps our way to understand a good life of everlasting truth-seeking without the suffocating authority of a demanding deity. I have chosen this excellent interview with his friend Salman Rushdie, given on the day he found out about ...
The writing is on the wall
An almost three-year old girl draws on everything. Miru takes her color pencils and makes her mark on the vocabulary cards that her mother has prepared for her early childhood education. Her third birthday is less than a month away and we think it's great when she learns a lot now, while her need to ...
Bird watching with Miru
Miru and I found ourselves on the church square in the village of Vimeiro in the Alentejo region of Portugal. A father and his daughter. In the portico in front of a church, where we sat down because of the shade we looked up and there were swallow nests between the naves of the dome. Miru ...
Try this #2
Stop for a moment with what you are doing and imagine how it could become a story. Now picture yourself telling that story. Who do you see in the audience?
How the brain of the one percent works
Miru is sharing only an infinitesimally small piece of her chocolate cookie. I ask her if she would share with papa and she nods. Then she touches her cookie with her little thumb and index finger, and puts the crumble that sticks on her fingers to my lips. Her dexterity is excellent and her composure ...
An imaginary piece of her candy
It is getting sweeter. Unbearably sweet. I go to the park with Miru to let her play on the swing and drink water from the fountain while I lie in the grass with an electronic book. There are always many children there to play with her. There is no lack here. This should be anyone's ...
try this #1
... look in the mirror with a very serious face and rehearse saying "only for the money? I couldn't do it"